Yeah, you can depict things how you like in books or film, particularly animated ones, but the main motivation behind Millennium Actress illustrates a realistic bit of attraction psychology.
Chiyoko spends her entire life chasing down a man with whom she spent only about a half a day, whose face she never fully saw, because of the dangerous excitement he embodied. He teased her with a brooding artistic vision that, to Chiyoko, was the antidote to the looming homemaker life her mother had planned for her.
All the while Chiyoko ignores Tachibana’s endless worship and white knighting, sometimes getting irritated or even angry at his professions of love and protection. The dope gets friendzoned in the worst way for decades while she risks her life for Mysterious Foreign Artist Guy.
I saw this again the other day and I think I realized the full brunt of the storytelling. You can watch the dubbed version here in its entirety.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nqq0nVu29g8